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People Monopolizing Your Time

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Time Is Valuable

If something or someone monopolizes you, they demand a lot of your time and attention, so that there is very little time left for anything or anyone else.

Too often, a person can irritate me because they just have too many needs and they don’t consolidate their requests making me spend an inordinate amount of time helping them. know that there is such a thing as people who interrupt others rudely or impatiently. Still, over the years, I have found that the people who complain about others rudely interrupting them (for additional help) they mostly are those who are frequently helping others.people-monopolizing-time

Cast your anxieties on him, for he cares for you.  1 Peter 5:7

People who try to control others are themselves out of control. These individuals will latch on to that which they know they can control thus making them feel better. It is kind of a fortification for them. That’s why people who squander our time generally obstruct our productivity and annoy us in the process. Whatever is going on for them is never about you. Being a control freak is a compulsion. Recognize that it began for them long before you showed up. Human nature allows us to take things like this personally. Don’t!!! Remember, they are doing this for their own sense of inner control, but doing it via outward expression. In other words they try to do it to everyone.

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Jealousy is Disparaging

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Jealousy is considered by many to be disparaging and not conducive or healthy for positive growth in relationships. We all share some form of jealousy. But; how we act upon this destructive emotion is what is paramount! Jealousy strikes both men and women and is most typically aroused when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party. Being resentful/envious of someone who has something we do not have.

The Bible tells us that we are to have the perfect kind of love that God has for us. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). The more we focus on ourselves and our own desires, the less we are able to focus on God. When we harden our hearts to the truth, we cannot turn to Jesus and allow Him to heal us (Matthew 13:15). But when we allow the Holy Spirit to control us, He will produce in us the fruit of our salvation, which is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).

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Wikipedia describes jealousy as:

jealousy-disparagingJealousy is an emotion; the term generally refers to the thoughts or feelings of insecurity, fear, concern, and envy over relative lack of possessions, status or something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a comparator. Jealousy often consists of one or more of emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness or disgust. In its original meaning, jealousy is distinct from envy, though the two terms have popularly become synonymous in the English language, with jealousy now also taking on the definition originally used for envy alone.


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Falling In Love

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Falling in love is as pleasurable and thrilling as a sunrise on a white sandy beach. We are created to fall in love. People who have a high frequency of love experiences tend to have high self-confidence. Anyone who has loved and lost, and loved again will tell you just how addictive love can be. But beyond the surface even the smallest part of you, your cells, are working to bond with companionship. We tend to gravitate to similar personalities in others. It is only natural that one likes someone who is easy to talk to, because they understand you and every simple statement doesn’t have to be backed up by an elaborate explanation of what you’re trying to say.

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1 Corinthians 13:1-13

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.

Love is:

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Love is more than sex! We jump to the conclusion that sex is involved; not realizing that camaraderie are much deeper than 10 minutes of blissful lust. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable.

List to mull over:

  • Commonalities that you share
  • Shared emotional connections
  • Relative values and moralities
  • Alike patience
  • Honesty, humble and approachable
  • Faithful and spiritually sound

You know you’re falling in love when you like that person a lot and having to pretend to be so blasé about it. And, all the time you are experiencing high anxiety when you’re in their company. You have to restrain yourself from talking about that person with your friends all the time. If you could you’d gush about them constantly. But out of respect for your friends and their sanity, you hold back…




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Giving Compassionately Helping Others

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The gift of time is often more valuable to the receiver and more satisfying for the giver than the gift of money. We don’t all have the same amount of money. But, we all do have time on our hands, and can give some of this time to help others. Whether that means we devote our lifetimes to service. Or, just give a few hours each day or a few days a year.


“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful. To be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” “No one has ever become poor by giving.”

Hebrews 6:10

God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.

“We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give” — Winston Churchill

It Feels Good

Giving literally feels good. In a study of over 1,700 women volunteers, scientists described the experience of a ‘helpers’ high’. This was the euphoric feeling. Followed by a longer period of calm, experienced by many of the volunteers after helping. These sensations result from the release of endorphins, and is followed by a longer-lasting period of improved emotional well-being and sense of self-worth, feelings that in turn reduce stress and improve the health of the helper.

“Giving back is as good for you as it is for those you are helping. Because, giving gives you purpose. When you have a purpose-driven life, you’re a happier person” — Goldie Hawn

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Luke 6:38

Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure. Pressed down – shaken together. Running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”

Dear God

We know that you are at the center of our lives. Please be with us as we try to be your willing servants. Bless our projects and help us to remember that every time we serve a person in need. We’re actually serving you! In Jesus’ name.

Philippians 2:4

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

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Self Trust

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Face your fears, negative thinking makes it look even worse than it is: like mission impossible…

You have to have context to know where you stand in every situation in life because without it, you end up owning the reactions others give you and that’s where most people get in trouble. Be yourself, you can be a yourself and still have a good time without having to cuddle the identity of that other person.

Developing a strong sense of self is fundamental for building confidence – do something well and believe you’re doing it well and that you are benefiting others. When you do this, even the slightest grumbles from other people do not phase you as you know that what you are doing is genuinely good.

“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Source: Eleanor Roosevelt.

Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you are right. Surely nobody can hold you down except your yourself. You just need to continue building on you current self esteem. With time you will realize that you have more confidence than the average people. Read motivational materials and look at yourself with pride. You have come a long way and should keep up the spirit.

 


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Self-trust can be lost but with a little effort it also can be restored. Many of us suffer from the symptoms of self-doubt: crippling indecision, constant desire for approval, perfectionism, and the fear of failure. In other words, knowing yourself + loving yourself = trusting yourself… Don’t be afraid to show others who you are. It is strength to show your vulnerabilities, not a weakness.

Philippians 4:13

I can do all this through him who gives me strength.

Psalm 139:13

You are the one who put me together inside my mother’s body, and I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me.

Proverbs 3:26

For the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.