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The desire for companionship

Having Companionship Emotionally Balanced

Companionship Emotionally Balanced: It is easy to feel superfluous and unwanted. This applies to whatever age you are, whether you are a broken-hearted 20-year-old, a redundant 40-year-old, or a divorced 50-year-old. The need for companionship is very human, very normal, and very necessary. Having companionship gives us emotional balance and lets us enjoy life. Many people who want to be in a relationship stop trying to find a companion and lull themselves into a life of quiet desperation and loneliness. It can only happen if you don’t give up and you continue to look for new and different ways to help you through the process of making your life more enjoyable.

Companionship Emotionally Balanced

I have a defined idea about what a real friend is “supposed to be”. Unfortunately, true friends are hard to find, acquaintances are a dime a dozen. There’s a lot to say in regards to companionship and intimacy that you can only get with a significant other. I could understand how someone would prefer being alone much of the time to being with other people, but I don’t believe anyone wants to be lonely.

The basic relationship needs are all things that we cannot provide ourselves, and we rely on others to help provide them for us. The results of these needs not being met are different depending on the individual on where he or she is in life. Most people can manage some periods of time without companionship being adequately met. But, it is important for our overall health that it is attended to; particularly when the desire for companionship becomes more pertinent.

Genesis 2:18

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

EcclCompanionship Emotionally Balanced 4:9-12

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

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Seclusion, Isolation


Seclusion, Loneliness, Isolation

Conquer Loneliness: Seclusion, Loneliness, Isolation

  1. Do something — anything
  2. Have realistic standards
  3. Think beyond yourself.
  4. Call, don’t post
  5. Make time for relationships


Notice your self deflating thoughts:

Seclusion, Loneliness, Isolation: We can feel lonely in a relationship, in a crowded room, even among friends. Being alone and being lonely are two different things. Everyone experiences loneliness at some time. It’s a common denominator in the equation of life. It’s also something no one likes to feel, so our natural response is to run from it, avoid it or deny it by filling our lives with a million distractions.

Wanting to connect with others is not codependency. Humans are naturally social, some more than others. For some, one or two connections may be all they want. Others may crave a large group of friends. Regardless of your preferences, feeling lonely does not mean something is wrong with you.

Psalm 25:16 NIV

“Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.”



Realize that loneliness is a feeling, not a fact:

Feeling lonely creates sadness and stops the ability to self-regulate the emotions associated with feeling isolated. This means not just outwardly but deep inside. Each person will feel distress when their need for companionship/friendship are not fulfilled. If loneliness continues over time it can become a source of chronic upset. What a frustrating experience that would be and after a time that frustration may affect their mood when they are around others. They may make negative statements and start to blame others if someone criticizes them. Their loneliness may be expressed in anger or resentment, which often results in others pulling away (counterproductive). Loneliness can find you inadvertently in a catch-22 situation. Hence, loneliness feeds on itself.

1 Peter 5:7 NIV

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”



As the story of Adam and Eve illustrates, God intends for us to share our lives with other people. The importance of personal relationships in God’s eyes is evident in the amount of space devoted to them in the Bible.


Genesis 2:18

“It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Proverbs 18:24 NIV

“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

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Giving of Oneself

Giving Oneself review
Giving Oneself

It Feels Good, Giving Oneself review

Giving Oneself review : The gift of time is often more valuable to the receiver and more satisfying for the giver than the gift of money. We don’t all have the same amount of money, but we all do have time on our hands, and can give some of this time to help others—whether that means we devote our lifetimes to service, or just give a few hours each day or a few days a year. Giving Oneself review

“We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give” — Winston Churchill

Giving of Oneself, Giving Oneself review

Giving Oneself review : Giving literally feels good. In a study of over 1,700 women volunteers, scientists described the experience of a ‘helpers’ high’. This was the euphoric feeling, followed by a longer period of calm, experienced by many of the volunteers after helping. These sensations result from the release of endorphins, and is followed by a longer-lasting period of improved emotional well-being and sense of self-worth, feelings that in turn reduce stress and improve the health of the helper.

“Giving back is as good for you as it is for those you are helping, because giving gives you purpose. When you have a purpose-driven life, you’re a happier person” — Goldie Hawn

Dear God

We know that you are at the center of our lives. Please be with us as we try to be your willing servants. Bless our projects and help us to remember that every time we serve a person in need, we’re actually serving you! In Jesus’ name.

Hebrews 6:10

God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.

Hebrews 13:16

And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.

Philippians 2:4

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.



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approach – manner

There are numerous reasons why politeness is essential in life but one of them is that if you’re polite, you are more likely to accomplish your objectives and get what you want. Also, people are more likely to take you seriously and deal with you in an encouraging manner. Being courteous with others shows that you place value on their thoughts and opinions, and can encourage them to engage more in a productive and satisfying conversation. Have you ever walked away from talking with someone that you’ve just met and thought to yourself “Wow, this was one of the best conversations I’ve ever had!”?


Colossians 4:6

Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.

Matthew 7:12

So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

Approach, Manner, Attitude, Tone, Courteous Your Attitude

Understand that attitude is a choice. Chuck Swindoll (an evangelical Christian pastor, author, educator, and radio preacher) was right on target when he said “the remarkable thing is, we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day”. Brian Tracy wisely says “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, an in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you”.

“Humor is a powerful motivator. The more humor and laughter in your life, the less stress you’ll have, which means more positive energy to help you put your attitude into action.” I agree with Thomas Jefferson when he said “Nothing can stop the man (or woman) with the right mental attitude from achieving his (her) goal; nothing on earth can help the man (or woman) with the wrong mental attitude”.


James 2:18

But someone will say, “You have faith and I have works.” Show me your faith apart from your works, and I will show you my faith by my works.

Ask yourself:

What is your objective in each situation?

What is the objective of the other person?

Will polite language help you achieve your objective?