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There are numerous reasons why politeness is essential in life but one of them is that if you’re polite, you are more likely to accomplish your objectives and get what you want. Also, people are more likely to take you seriously and deal with you in an encouraging manner. Being courteous with others shows that you place value on their thoughts and opinions, and can encourage them to engage more in a productive and satisfying conversation. Have you ever walked away from talking with someone that you’ve just met and thought to yourself “Wow, this was one of the best conversations I’ve ever had!”?


Colossians 4:6

Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.

Matthew 7:12

So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

Approach, Manner, Attitude, Tone, Courteous Your Attitude

Understand that attitude is a choice. Chuck Swindoll (an evangelical Christian pastor, author, educator, and radio preacher) was right on target when he said “the remarkable thing is, we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day”. Brian Tracy wisely says “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, an in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you”.

“Humor is a powerful motivator. The more humor and laughter in your life, the less stress you’ll have, which means more positive energy to help you put your attitude into action.” I agree with Thomas Jefferson when he said “Nothing can stop the man (or woman) with the right mental attitude from achieving his (her) goal; nothing on earth can help the man (or woman) with the wrong mental attitude”.


James 2:18

But someone will say, “You have faith and I have works.” Show me your faith apart from your works, and I will show you my faith by my works.

Ask yourself:

What is your objective in each situation?

What is the objective of the other person?

Will polite language help you achieve your objective?

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Deception, Omission


deception, omission, commission Some feel that deception is never acceptable, while others feel that deception may be necessary to maintain legitimacy. Deception may be through omission or commission. In a 2002 study by Robert Feldman of the University of Massachusetts, he found that on average, people told two to three lies in a ten-minute conversation.

Humans aren’t the only species capable of lying, of course. What’s surprising is the extent to which other animals and even plants rely on deception to survive. In one comic example, the famous signing gorilla Koko blamed her pet kitten for ripping a sink out of the wall.

Dishonesty requires the brain to work harder than honesty, the demand for honesty is appropriate.

The Bible tells us not to bear false witness against our neighbor (Ten Commandments).

Exodus 20:16
You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.

Justified Lie


There might be a number of contexts in which lying is actually justified.

a brother lies about his sister’s where – abouts to the drunken husband threatening to harm her.

Lie, permissible


Yet many philosophical and religious traditions have long claimed that rarely, if ever, is a lie permissible.

Galatians 6:7-8 ESV

Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.



Proverbs 12:22 ESV

Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight.

Proverbs 10:9 ESV

Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out.

Psalm 52:2 ESV

Your tongue plots destruction, like a sharp razor, you worker of deceit.


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Broken relationships



The true meaning of love, as defined in the Bible, has been corrupted in the common usage of our English language and society. Most often, love is confused with infatuation – that elated, “high” feeling we get when we “fall in love.” This kind of “love” is something that lasts typically less than a year. Unless replaced by true love, results in broken relationships.

Everybody seems to believe that love is a good thing. However, not all agree what is love. Is love that warm touchy-feely feeling a person has when he is with a familiar person? According to the Bible, love is caring in action. Love isn’t what we feel, but what we do.

“For God so loved (agape) the world, that He gave His only begotten Son. That whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life.” (John 3:16)

Taking pleasure

Love in the Bible, as in our everyday usage, can be directed from person to person or from a person to things. When directed toward things, love means enjoying or taking pleasure in those things. Although, Love towards persons is more complex. As with things, loving persons may mean simply enjoying them and taking pleasure in their personalities. Looks, achievements, etc. But there is another aspect of interpersonal love that is very important in the Bible. There is the aspect of love for persons who are not attractive or virtuous or productive. In this case, love is not a delight in what a person is. Yet, a deeply felt commitment to helping him be what he ought to be. As we will see, the love for things and both dimensions of the love for persons are richly illustrated in the Bible.

God’s Love

As we examine the Old Testament and the New Testament in turn, our focus will be on God’s love, then on man’s love for God, man’s love for man and man’s love for things.

John Piper

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Riches, Find Christ

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riches-finding christ

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV).

If God called you to do it, then you shouldn’t be able to do it without him. In fact, if you could do it without him, then it’s really not a God-thing. I know you feel that God is asking you to do something that works against your strengths. But God has called you and that means his strength is working through you and that will make you sufficient for the task.God’s Word says your weaknesses, doubts, and insecurities are no surprise to God. You may try to hide them from others, but you can’t hide them from the one who created you.

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Dependent upon him

The truth is, God created you with weaknesses. And, since he’s God, he couldn’t have made a mistake. With you dependent upon him, you’re able to do all things through him who strengthens you (Philippians 4:13–14). This also means God won’t let you use weaknesses as an excuse for not doing what he’s asking you to do. If God is calling you to a monumental task, then he’ll give you everything you need to complete the task, starting with the Holy Spirit working within you. My friend, God didn’t call other people to this task! He called you and in his strength you can do it. The God-who-loves-you is with you for every step you take as you follow Jesus toward your destiny. riches-finding christ

Spiritual benefit

There’s a single word that encompasses all the riches we find in Christ: grace. What a magnificent word it is! It is the means by which we receive every physical and spiritual benefit. To some measure even unbelievers benefit from God’s grace. Theologians call that “common grace” because it is common to all mankind. Common grace is God’s continual care for all creation, providing for his creatures’ needs. Through common grace God restrains humanity from utter debauchery and maintains order and some sense of beauty, morality, and goodness in society’s consciousness.


Christians, however, receive a greater grace (James 4:6). To us God’s grace is inexhaustible and boundless, including all that we have talked in earlier posts about regarding the all-sufficient provisions of Jesus Christ.

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