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Communications without Anger



Controlling Anger:

communications-without-angerWe need to be clear about our standards, about anger; so we can create very intentional messages for when difficult, anger-provoking situations occurs. Consider this when communicating with others. Make your points clearly and succinctly without condemnations or accusations. The reason we get angry have more to do with our thoughts than our circumstances. It is the manner in which people express emotions that can be either creative or destructive, appropriate or inappropriate. Poor communication skills can be a contributor to anger, abusive attitudes and inappropriate behaviors. Effective communication is arguably one of the most significant factors in today’s world. If your communication proficiency is not adequate, your ideas are not going to receive the recognition they reasonably deserve. Increase your relevant personal interaction with others, interpersonal information exchange depends on social styles. Customize your own style to your audience to create a smoother exchange of ideas. Effective communications are best served with efficient listening skills. Do not be in so much in a hurry to get your point across that you’re not listening to others… Nothing makes a person feel less validated then feeling as if they’re not being heard.

Gen 49:7

Cursed is their anger, for it is fierce, And their wrath, for it is sharp.


Communications without AngerWhat you don’t want to do is, carry around the resentment and frustration that comes from “stuffing” your anger and all of the other feelings you may be experiencing. It takes a lot of mental energy to bottle up these feelings. After all, every human being experiences anger now and then. Again, violence toward oneself or others is never an acceptable way of expressing anger.

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“High Trust, It’s a Must” —- “Low Trust Go Bust!”


Being trust-worthy:
Low Trust Go BustWhen you create an environment around you where people can’t or don’t trust your motives or actions, you lose confidence from others. There is nothing we value more in any relationship than honesty, integrity and trust! Hence, we use trust to gauge our relationship with others, and in the process, we figure out how much we are willing to give of ourselves to others. It is trust that pushes us to believe that we can and will conquer every obstacle. Building trust is imperative, when there is a lack of trust; skepticism breeds immensely. We all need to have trust is one another. With that being said, trust is not a given or a right. Trust is earned! Earning trust can be difficult at times (depending on the individuals personal history), we should pay attention to all the clues which encourages trust from others,

  1. Be a good listener.
  2. Not lying.
  3. Speak with conviction.
  4. Practice the behavior you want to see.
  5. Be honest.
  6. Be reliable.
  7. Be understanding.
  8. Tell the truth.
  9. Be genuine.
  10. Speak with confidence.


Distrust is a formal way of not trusting any one party too much in a situation of grave risk or deep doubt.

Building Trust:

Trust appears to be on the decline… My experience is that when we significantly distrust in someone or others. This triples the time it takes to get things done. There is a measurable distinction when you have “High trust” in someone. Trust is a performance multiplier. It enables you to succeed in your communications, interactions, and decisions, and to move with incredible speed.

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Good Communication

Are there any distinction in the methods that men and women use in communicating? good-communication-encompass-good-listening

Yes!!! Men and women are different by design and function, they differ in the way they think, feel, act, and talk. We should also keep in mind, along with communication comes listening. Without the capacity for good listening, communication becomes irrelevant. You should have to communicate something only once or twice for it to be heard. Consider being more aware and using all your senses to listen instead of only using your ears, you’ll be communicating on a level you didn’t think was possible.

  • She sees conversation as an act of sharing and an opportunity to increase intimacy with her partner.
  • Be observant enough to notice when she starts to recoil so that you can pull her into your arms, look her in the eyes, and let her know that you are always there to listen to her.
  • It’s no new revelation if I say that not all ladies are calm heart. Some ladies are naturally stubborn, and there is little or probably nothing you can do about that. Such a lady listens to herself and listens to her man only when she wants to.

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“The successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings”

Most self-help books and even many professionals will tell you that the key to a better relationship is good communication. One of the biggest mistakes in communication is assumption, never assume that your message is completely understood by all. It is always best to explain the message thoroughly than run the risk of being misunderstood. Though life is busy and personal styles are comfortable, adaptation to gender communication promotes individual growth. By the way, and he believes communication is used to get to the root of the dilemma as efficiently as possible.

Proverbs 12:25

“Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.”

1 Peter 3:7

Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as the weaker partners and show them honor as fellow heirs of the grace of life. In this way nothing will hinder your prayers.