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Getting Along With People

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“Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” (Proverbs 16:18)

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1)

YOU CAN LEARN:

Develop genuine interest in people. When you talk to a person always make sure you focus only on that particular individual and don’t get distracted by anything else. Follow Abraham Lincoln’s famous self-instruction: “I do not like that man; therefore I shall get to know him better.” You can learn to care about others around you. You can learn to trust people around you and by doing this other people will be interested in you. They will care about what you have to say and will trust you.


A Song of Ascents. Of David. Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity! It is like the precious oil on the head, running down on the beard, on the beard of Aaron, running down on the collar of his robes! It is like the dew of Hermon, which falls on the mountains of Zion! For there the Lord has commanded the blessing, life forevermore. (Psalm 133:1-3 )

SHOW GENUINE INTEREST:

Honestly, it is extremely interesting to know about other people, the lives they lead, the kind of challenges they have had and their philosophies of life. And it is a great high to know that you can connect to them at these levels even if they are from a different country or a race or religion or language. No matter what diversity you share – you still show genuine interest, people would love to talk to you.

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getting-along-people

Not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock. And when the chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the unfading crown of glory. Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”  (1 Peter 5:3-5 )

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KEEP CALM NOT ANGRY

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Living every moment with tension can take a toll over time. It can make you ill. Honor Slow is Beautiful, as I once saw on a button, when you can. Maybe stay in pajamas on Sunday. Someone told me the whole family did this spontaneously one day and it was better than the last vacation.

Being angry and not sinning requires the discernment of constant practice (Hebrews 5:14) because so much of our anger is rooted in our prideful, selfish sin nature. And if we’ve suffered under the tyranny of a sinfully angry person, emotionally it can be very difficult to distinguish between sinful and righteous anger. But because it is something God calls us to, we must press into it.


Ephesians 4:26-27

BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger,

James 1:19-20

This you know, my beloved brethren But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;

Proverbs 29:11

A fool always loses his temper, But a wise man holds it back

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8 tips for staying calm:

  1. Worry with purpose
  2. Keep it in perspective
  3. Imagine the best-case scenario
  4. Do what you can do today
  5. Give yourself a pep-talk
  6. Find something better to do
  7. Practice a power move
  8. Go to sleep early



Psalm 56:3

When I am afraid, I will put my trust in You.

Matthew 6:27

“And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life?

Matthew 11:28-30

“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.

Psalm 23:4

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

Psalm 46:10

“Cease striving and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”

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BASIC HUMAN DECENCY

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If we cannot change the world (and I suspect we can’t), we can provide all people the sorts of environments they deserve in their daily environments of kindness, compassion, safety, and challenges.

basic-human-decencyBasic human decency is being polite, courteous, civil, thoughtful, and using tact and diplomacy when with others, thus treating them as you wish to be treated. As beings endowed with a capacity for language and reason, we are uniquely suited to the apprehension of this principle, and most people have an intuitive grasp of it. The world is a beautiful place when everybody is mindful of one another. If we all were humble and kind and gave others a little bit of our time. To show them they have importance and significance just the same as the things we are all so caught up in.

Psalm 15:1-5

A Psalm of David. O Lord, who shall sojourn in your tent? Who shall dwell on your holy hill? He who walks blamelessly and does what is right and speaks truth in his heart. Who does not slander with his tongue and does no evil to his neighbor, nor takes up a reproach against his friend. In whose eyes a vile person is despised. But, who honors those who fear the Lord. Who swears to his own hurt and does not change; who does not put out his money at interest and does not take a bribe against the innocent. He, who does these things shall never be moved.

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Disrespect, is the number one factor that tears communities apart. People who are focused on criticizing others miss a whopping 50 percent of positive things that others are doing and they see negativity when it’s not there. People who give others the cold shoulder—deliberately ignoring them or responding minimally—damage the relationship by making others feel worthless and invisible, as if they’re not there, not valued. Feeling and demonstrating gratitude for the relationship you have with another is a natural result of acceptance, appreciation and expectation.

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Romans 13:13

Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy.

1 Corinthians 14:40

Let all things be done decently and in order.


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Trusting My Intuitiveness

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According to many researchers, intuition is far more material than it seems. Intuitive decision-making has the advantage of being quick. We get an overall feeling for a situation, based upon evolved emotions and heuristics and modified by our own experiences, and can act quickly on such feelings. And, we constantly take in all that happens to us and interpret it. We constantly interpret life. As Blaise Pascal wisely said, “The heart has reasons that reason does not understand.” And your heart is always right.

Proverbs 2:6-15

For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding; he stores up sound wisdom for the upright; he is a shield to those who walk in integrity, guarding the paths of justice and watching over the way of his saints. Then you will understand righteousness and justice and equity, every good path; for wisdom will come into your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.

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trusting-intuitiveness

Intuition can come through as a gut feeling, an “ah-ha!” moment, a body signal, a flash of insight or a dream. Research shows that during dream-time, for example, the brain does creative problem-solving , which can help you make the right choice in your waking life.

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The truth is, trust must be carefully constructed, vigorously nurtured and constantly reinforced. Although it takes a long time to develop, it can be destroyed by a single action. And once lost, it is exceptionally difficult to re-establish. Trusting your intuition is one of the most precious proficiency to tenure.

 

James 1:5-6

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.


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Self-Awareness, Values and Perfection

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We should be eager to embrace self love, and be a perpetual learner in this voyage. I’ve stopped apologizing for who I am and have learned that I am “perfect” the way I am. I will constantly be growing, evolving and working on bad habits. But, those flaws; those imperfections are part of the beauty that makes me, me. “If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe.

Philippians 2:2-8

Complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, …

I’m Not Perfect (Yes, you keep showing me that.)

Our identity should be seen as an ongoing process. Rather than a static snapshot, we should embrace a flowing sense of self. Whereby, we are perpetually re-framing, re-organizing, re-thinking and re-considering ourselves. How different would life be if rather than asking who am I? We contemplated how we’d like to engage life… But I think the reason I’ve never had that mindset (“I not perfect”), is because I do believe in our innate “perfection” along with the amazing ability we all have to grow. We can change, clear things up and make real, heartfelt amends when necessary. It doesn’t normally cross my mind to consider whether I am doing something “perfectly” and right or wrong. I, for the most part, move through the world thinking I can do almost anything I put my mind to!

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Luke 18:9-14

He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and treated others with contempt: “Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed thus: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ …