We need to be clear about our standards, about anger; so we can create very intentional messages for when difficult, anger-provoking situations occurs. Consider this when communicating with others. Make your points clearly and succinctly without condemnations or accusations. The reason we get angry have more to do with our thoughts than our circumstances. It is the manner in which people express emotions that can be either creative or destructive, appropriate or inappropriate. Poor communication skills can be a contributor to anger, abusive attitudes and inappropriate behaviors. Effective communication is arguably one of the most significant factors in today’s world. If your communication proficiency is not adequate, your ideas are not going to receive the recognition they reasonably deserve. Increase your relevant personal interaction with others, interpersonal information exchange depends on social styles. Customize your own style to your audience to create a smoother exchange of ideas. Effective communications are best served with efficient listening skills. Do not be in so much in a hurry to get your point across that you’re not listening to others… Nothing makes a person feel less validated then feeling as if they’re not being heard.
Cursed is their anger, for it is fierce, And their wrath, for it is sharp.
What you don’t want to do is, carry around the resentment and frustration that comes from “stuffing” your anger and all of the other feelings you may be experiencing. It takes a lot of mental energy to bottle up these feelings. After all, every human being experiences anger now and then. Again, violence toward oneself or others is never an acceptable way of expressing anger.
Why do the Egyptians speak, saying, For evil He brought them out to slay them among mountains, and to consume them from off the face of the ground? Turn back from the heat of Thine anger, and repent of the evil against Thy people.
Be Assertive not Angry:
Assertive is behaving without the expectation that the other person will “back down,” agree with you, or do what you want them to do. The real goal of being assertive is clear communication, not necessarily getting what you want. When you are assertive, you open a door and invite others to join you in a constructive dialogue. This may lead to a resolution or it may not. Being assertive requires an understanding that it’s ok to have your personal opinion, but; you need to allow other individuals their right to disagree. Huffing and puffing, getting bent-up out of shape or being angry because they said no is less than flattering. Compromising is best suited when this happens. There are many good benefits in being assertive. When you’re assertive, you have a positive prospective of life. You’re demeanor and behavior are administer through your personal deeds or judgment. Knowing that you can make changes to improve your own situation is a convincing boost for personal growth.
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
Focusing on your form of communication has a lot to do with your disposition and anger. Learning good communication skills is a great way to manage anger. There are many ways to improve your communication skills, you can try self help books or seek the advice of a professional. Whatever approach you choose, it is your willingness to learn and change your ways that will enhance the effectiveness of these anger management techniques.
Below is a list for building effective communication skills:
- Understand your communication style.
- Reading Nonverbal Cue.
- Reflect on how others react to your communications.
- Listening skill.
- Share the best way for others to communicate with you.
- Writing skills.
- Communicate on the other person’s channel.
- Verbal skill.
- Learn how stress impacts communications.
- Teamwork skills.
- Deliver messages at the right moments.
- Interpersonal communication skills.