“Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” (Proverbs 16:18)
“A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1)
YOU CAN LEARN:
Develop genuine interest in people. When you talk to a person always make sure you focus only on that particular individual and don’t get distracted by anything else. Follow Abraham Lincoln’s famous self-instruction: “I do not like that man; therefore I shall get to know him better.” You can learn to care about others around you. You can learn to trust people around you and by doing this other people will be interested in you. They will care about what you have to say and will trust you.
Living every moment with tension can take a toll over time. It can make you ill. Honor Slow is Beautiful, as I once saw on a button, when you can. Maybe stay in pajamas on Sunday. Someone told me the whole family did this spontaneously one day and it was better than the last vacation.
Being angry and not sinning requires the discernment of constant practice (Hebrews 5:14) because so much of our anger is rooted in our prideful, selfish sin nature. And if we’ve suffered under the tyranny of a sinfully angry person, emotionally it can be very difficult to distinguish between sinful and righteous anger. But because it is something God calls us to, we must press into it.
Is our neighbor more than the guy next door? Could he or she be someone in our community or almost anyone we meet? Could our enemies also be our neighbors? Jesus says that it’s so. But how can we love someone who acts hatefully toward us?
In Matthew 22:36-39, a lawyer challenges Jesus asking him, “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?”
Jesus answers him saying, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (ESV).
How to love thy neighbor?
Finding the good, on purpose is how we train ourselves to “love thy neighbor“...
Jealousy is considered by many to be disparaging and not conducive or healthy for positive growth in relationships. We all share some form of jealousy. But; how we act upon this destructive emotion is what is paramount! Jealousy strikes both men and women and is most typically aroused when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party. Being resentful/envious of someone who has something we do not have.
The Bible tells us that we are to have the perfect kind of love that God has for us. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5)...
If we cannot change the world (and I suspect we can’t), we can provide all people the sorts of environments they deserve in their daily environments of kindness, compassion, safety, and challenges.
Basic human decency is being polite, courteous, civil, thoughtful, and using tact and diplomacy when with others, thus treating them as you wish to be treated. As beings endowed with a capacity for language and reason, we are uniquely suited to the apprehension of this principle, and most people have an intuitive grasp of it. The world is a beautiful place when everybody is mindful of one another. If we all were humble and kind and gave others a little bit of our time. To show them they have importance and significance just the same as the things we are all so caught up in.
Falling in love is as pleasurable and thrilling as a sunrise on a white sandy beach. We are created to fall in love. People who have a high frequency of love experiences tend to have high self-confidence. Anyone who has loved and lost, and loved again will tell you just how addictive love can be. But beyond the surface even the smallest part of you, your cells, are working to bond with companionship. We tend to gravitate to similar personalities in others. It is only natural that one likes someone who is easy to talk to, because they understand you and every simple statement doesn’t have to be backed up by an elaborate explanation of what you’re trying to say.
1 Corinthians 13:1-13
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a nois...
According to many researchers, intuition is far more material than it seems. Intuitive decision-making has the advantage of being quick. We get an overall feeling for a situation, based upon evolved emotions and heuristics and modified by our own experiences, and can act quickly on such feelings. And, we constantly take in all that happens to us and interpret it. We constantly interpret life. As Blaise Pascal wisely said, “The heart has reasons that reason does not understand.” And your heart is always right.
For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding; he stores up sound wisdom for the upright; he is a shield to those who walk in integrity, guarding the paths of justice and watching over the way of his saints...
having or showing a strong or unreasoning desire for revenge.
vengeful, revengeful, unforgiving, resentful, acrimonious, bitter; spiteful, mean, rancorous, venomous, malicious, malevolent, nasty, mean-spirited, cruel, unkind
Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away...
We should be eager to embrace self love, and be a perpetual learner in this voyage. I’ve stopped apologizing for who I am and have learned that I am “perfect” the way I am. I will constantly be growing, evolving and working on bad habits. But, those flaws; those imperfections are part of the beauty that makes me, me. “If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe.
Complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others...
The gift of time is often more valuable to the receiver and more satisfying for the giver than the gift of money. We don’t all have the same amount of money. But, we all do have time on our hands, and can give some of this time to help others. Whether that means we devote our lifetimes to service. Or, just give a few hours each day or a few days a year.