having or showing a strong or unreasoning desire for revenge.
vengeful, revengeful, unforgiving, resentful, acrimonious, bitter; spiteful, mean, rancorous, venomous, malicious, malevolent, nasty, mean-spirited, cruel, unkind
Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; …
What is vindictive actions?
Vindictiveness can be very disguised. Even harsh blame is vindictiveness.
- Didn’t I tell you to do this properly?
- When will you learn to do better?
- Why are you like that all the time?
See? very easy to fall into vindictiveness mode. Sometimes, it is not even words. It is a look that you give a person or a sigh of disapproval, or a smirk on your face. All vindictive.
It’s easy to find things about pretty much everyone that annoy us (just as others can easily find faults in us). But most of us have far more good points than bad, and it’s not difficult to focus on these.
Unless of course you’re a vindictive person. There’s a fine line between harmless gossip and complaining, and a vindictive person is happy to cross it – they rarely have a good word to say about anyone. So if you ever come across someone who is happy, even gleeful, to hurt others, be careful. Don’t allow their language to enlighten your opinion, and watch what you say about others. The chances are that they’re saying just as spiteful things about you when your back is turned!
More in number than the hairs of my head are those who hate me without cause; mighty are those who would destroy me, those who attack me with lies. What I did not steal must I now restore?
Most vindictive individuals have four common characteristics:
They know how to detect your weaknesses.
Once found, they use your weaknesses against you.
Through their shrewd plotting, they convince you to give up something of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
In work, social, and family situations, once a vindictive individual succeeds in taking advantage of you, he or she will likely repeat the violation until you put a stop to the exploitation.
How to avoid vindictive behavior?
How to protect yourself against vindictive people:
First, think carefully about your own behavior to see if you may have done or said something to cause the other party’s behavior.
If you can identify something that you did that likely offended the other party, if possible, offer a sincere apology. If he or she accepts your apology, things work out well for both parties. And, If your apology is not accepted, you can at least walk away with some peace of mind, knowing that you owned up to your behavior.
Now, If you cannot think of anything that you did that could have offended the other party, give him or her a silent treatment and walk away. Confronting the other party about unkind behavior is not likely to be fruitful. Remember the saying “fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.” In other words, the other party’s unkind behavior is on him or her; he or she will reap natural consequences in due time.